A dear friend of mine passed away this week.
Fred was the father of one of my best friends growing up, and I have been unable to stop the flood of memories ever since hearing the news of his passing.
He was a CHP officer, and had the greatest stories about his years of service. I had two favorites out of Fred’s stories. One was when he would talk about handing out candy canes after pulling people over on Christmas Day. And the other was when he unknowingly pulled over an infamous “cop killer” in Southern California. Fred was later informed that the convict had planned to also kill him, but when he looked in his rear view mirror, he saw a “large man” sitting in the passenger seat of the squad car. Assuming he would himself be shot by Fred’s partner, he calmly accepted his ticket and drove away, leaving Fred and his nonexistent partner unharmed.
Fred was also a survival specialist, and taught many classes in the wilderness. He taught me how to build a snow cave, and brew pine needle tea. He took a group of us camping on the lost coast and drained my blisters with a syringe. He cooked for me. He loved to have me sit and watch television with him. He teased me. He hugged me. He yelled at me when I kept him up at night, giggling and raiding the pantry with his daughter. He shared his home and his family with me, and as he did with so many others, he shared his enormous heart with me.
There were two ways to make Fred cry.
One: tell him good news.
Two: tell him bad news.
I can’t count the times that I saw Fred cry, but still to this day I remember him being one of the most compassionate people I have ever known.
Its just not right that such a wonderful man was taken before his time.
I however have hope that his beautiful family, his precious grandchildren, and those of us who had the pleasure of knowing Fred will take what he taught us, the knowledge and the compassion that he gave us, and continue where he left off until we have the pleasure of seeing him again.
Thank you Fred for being a part of the “village” that raised me.
You will be greatly missed.

3 thoughts on “Fred.”

  1. What a beautiful post! The story about the “large man” gave me chills…I wonder if he met that angel this week? I’m sorry for your loss. <3

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